When you live in a controlling environment, even the smallest decisions can spark a major argument.

This young woman’s parents are upset about her purchase of a concert ticket because it goes against their religious beliefs.

Let us tell the whole story…

I (20, f) bought a VIP ticket for a concert in late July in May that cost almost $500.

I had worked very hard that month to be able to pay for it, but I had not consulted my parents before making this decision.

My parents, my father is 40 and my mother is 42, are conservative and Christian.

This has caused some serious problems…

This is because I was upset that I wasn’t allowed to go to a concert with some friends the day we hit a deer, and they didn’t like that I didn’t keep quiet about my upset and let them know that I don’t like facing the consequences for something that didn’t harm us.

Story – I planned to tell them in July on my birthday so they would probably let me go, but unfortunately they checked my bank statements and saw the payment before I could tell them myself.

These differences of opinion have led to great tensions and our nervousness is increasing as the concert approaches.

Now her siblings are involved…

My sister (F22) and brother (M14) have said that they understand that I will not cancel the ticket, but that I went about it wrong and should have told my parents before buying, especially since I know how they feel.

Ever since my parents discovered the ticket, they have been pressuring me to cancel it. They say I would be humiliating them, showing them no respect, and undermining their authority as parents if I say I will not cancel the ticket.

They have given me several lectures about this and they don’t seem to like the fact that I give them my opinion on the matter, even though I should just do what they say because they are my parents and I should just be obedient because it says in the Bible that you should honor your father and mother.

The last few weeks have been tough because, with my parents now somewhat excluding me, my siblings have had to step in for me and take on the tasks that I would normally have to do around the house, namely helping my parents with their various chores or businesses that they had to take care of.

My siblings are quieter than usual and my parents are angrier than usual, which puts us in a difficult position.

Her parents are hurt by her decision…

My parents said that as my parents they have a right to be informed about all my decisions and that it would not be right if I did not consult them.

They are angry because I do not communicate with them and do not submit to their world, even though as Christians we are not supposed to participate in these “worldly” activities.

They let me know that I am hurting their feelings because I don’t understand that by leaving I am putting myself in danger and committing a sin. They were only looking out for me and didn’t want me to go down a path that would be detrimental to my well-being.

Let’s see what Reddit thinks…

This commenter has some responsible advice.

A fellow Christian does not confess to the behavior of his parents.

Many Reddit users suggested contacting the bank.

All in all, everyone is keeping their fingers crossed that the OP will gain his independence!

Sometimes your parents don’t really have your best interests at heart.

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